Motherhood

Perfect Work

  In 2003, I discovered quite unexpectedly that I was pregnant. I was in the middle of my course work for my Ph.D., so we weren't yet "trying" to get pregnant, but it has a way of happening in a marriage. We were overjoyed to discover the positive pregnancy test -- but things quickly went [...]

Hands to Heaven

There is a line in Scripture that has always infuriated me. It's Timothy 2:15, and for years I could not read it without wanting to hurl my Bible at the wall. "The woman," writes St. Paul, "will be saved by childbearing, if only she continue with faith, love and holiness." Its baptized misogyny was insulting enough [...]

Rats, Roaches, and Queens

I keep an orderly kitchen -- spices fresh and organized; cereal safely resealed into sorted Tupperware containers; a fitted lid for every pot, pan and roaster. I have been heard to screech, "Who loaded the dishwasher without rinsing the dishes?" Scissors, tape, and push pins all have a right place, and the telephone book remains [...]

Woman To Woman

Catholic women who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant stand to benefit from others' experience. This was the thought that motivated me to post some readers' emails on my blog addressing the struggle to remain open to life in marriage and the difficulty of accepting an unexpected pregnancy. "Let's encourage one another," I wrote on the blog. [...]

My Friday Night Hit List

By Friday night, I am exhausted. Sometimes, too drained to do anything else, I play a game listing the people who irritated me the most that week. It's not charitable: It's my Friday Night Hit List. My husband's former girlfriend. This woman occasionally surfaces in my life, like a toxic oil slick. She suddenly appeared [...]

Motherhood

First, I want the reader's sympathy. Before I wrote this column, I ploughed through the jargon-ridden and statistics-laden pages of a recent study on "Trends and Determinants of Fertility Rates in OECD Countries: The Role of Public Policy." Once upon a time I read such things with something strangely approaching pleasure. Now they make my [...]

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