Not so long ago, colleges used to be a place where young adults would date and find their spouse. This made sense since men and women would often find their equals on a college campus, and earning their degree would equip them to work and support a family. At a more conservative school like Baylor University, where many students would meet their future spouses, many Texans often joked that a girl would go there “to earn her MRS.”
Sadly, those days are no more. College has instead become a place where students, particularly women, are discouraged from marriage altogether. According to a survey done earlier this year, 43 percent of young women with college degrees have no interest in dating, versus 34 percent of men.
Furthermore, the majority of men and women report that the opposite sex falls short of their expectations: 45 percent of college-educated women cite this problem as a major reason for not dating, along with 28 percent saying it was at least a minor reason; similarly, 33 percent of college-educated men cite it as a major reason, and 35 percent said it was a minor one.
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On the surface, there is nothing necessarily wrong with this. It’s only natural that women who have more formal education, and thus more earning potential, would have higher expectations for a potential mate. Gone are the days where they had to depend on men, raise children, and hone their homemaking skills. Women today can now support themselves and ask more from men who want to date or marry them.
However, when one looks beneath the surface and explores what college-educated women mean when they say “someone who meets their expectations,” the issue becomes more complicated than simply having more financial autonomy. In addition to men who don’t have college degrees, most of these women are refusing to consider men for what amounts to having the wrong political opinions: 74 percent would be less likely to date a Trump supporter, 72 percent would be less likely to date a vaccine skeptic, 54 percent would be less likely to date someone who is very religious, and 52 percent would be less likely to date a Republican.
These numbers strongly suggest that it’s not the college degree that keeps women from dating and marrying but the college “education” that they’re receiving. Not only are young women being indoctrinated with feminist propaganda that casts men as the enemy, but they are also being brainwashed with Marxist propaganda that vaunts government as all-important, dismisses the claims of religion, and characterizes Trump and his supporters as the spawns of Hell. Under this framework, a man could be in great shape, have amazing job prospects, and be utterly charming, but if he’s a conservative Christian who voted for Trump and had no reason to take the Covid jab, a majority of college-educated women will automatically reject him.
In order to see how profoundly stupid it is to apply this kind of criteria to a potential spouse, consider the alternative: a progressive neckbeard who doesn’t believe in God, exercise, hygiene, or working and is suffering from myocarditis after his fifth Covid booster. Even if that sounds like a caricature, there are more than a few of these types on college campuses who fit this description. And as for men who have the best of both worlds—a man with the right views who is somehow not an effeminate loser—they are quite rare and usually prefer hookups with multiple people over serious monogamous relationships.
In light of such slim pickings, one would imagine that women should start reconsidering the way they evaluate the men they date. Maybe they could judge them on their achievements, their virtues, and their values—those things that actually have bearing on the success of a marriage. But no, most women are dispensing with dating and marriage altogether. Maybe some committed feminists would consider such a life fulfilling, but wiser people would rightly see this as the path to misery.
On a collective level, so many women opting out of dating and marriage, or applying ridiculous standards to their partners, spells doom for the future of the developed world as birthrates plunge and aging populations become ever more dependent on drugs and technology to stave off despair. Even if these issues seem like far-off scenarios (one of the many lies that colleges tell their students), it only takes a couple of generations to observe the consequences; and many countries like China, Japan, and Germany are already experiencing them.
What will it matter to have more gender parity in the workforce and political purity in one’s tribe if it ultimately brings about a bleak Children of Men dystopia where nations of elderly spinsters await their euthanasia because no one in the younger generation is there to support them in their old age?
What’s ironic is that college is supposed to be the place where young adults learn to think and become more tolerant of different views. Rather, it’s the opposite: young adults learn how not to think and how to become ever more intolerant. That’s why it’s the women without college degrees who seem to be more realistic and open-minded about whom they date and marry. It isn’t that they feel forced into depending on a man; it’s that they haven’t had professors, peers, and parents discouraging them from taking their vocations as wives and mothers seriously.
Since it’s unlikely that colleges will ever change their feminist-Marxist stance on marriage, it falls on students and their parents to stop drinking the anti-coupling Kool-Aid these places are serving. Either they should just avoid college if they don’t need the degree (which is most people), or they should learn how to tune out the nonsense of their classes and the culture at large.
The messaging directed at young people may seem empowering and affirming, but it’s actually the opposite—just ask any lonely middle-aged millennial hopelessly trying to find “the one” out in cyberspace. True love that enables marriage and children is far more important and real than a person’s political affiliation or vaccination status.