A brave new baby-making world

Nicole Kidman and her country music star husband, Keith Urban, welcomed a second child into their family last month. If you didn’t know she was pregnant, don’t worry — she wasn’t. Nor did she and her husband adopt. Here’s the statement they released to TMZ:

Our family is truly blessed, and just so thankful, to have been given the gift of baby Faith Margaret. No words can adequately convey the incredible gratitude that we feel for everyone who was so supportive throughout this process, in particular our gestational carrier.

It’s a whole new world when couples begin thanking their “gestational carriers,” women who carried their biological children to term and gave birth for money.

For a lot of people, it makes perfect sense to take advantage of whatever medical science has to offer when they have problems building a family. We use medical interventions for everything else, so why not for having babies? Even many practicing Catholics don’t know Church teaching on this — they don’t hear it, nor do they understand it.

Zoe Romanowsky


Zoe Romanowsky is writer, consultant, and coach. Her articles have appeared in "Catholic Digest," "Faith & Family," "National Catholic Register," "Our Sunday Visitor," "Urbanite," "Baltimore Eats," and Godspy.com. Zo

  • Jim B

    “I’d like to thank the Academy, and most of all my parents and my gestational carrier”

    And then there was this gem on the news today…

    Berkeley set to offer sex-change employee benefit


    Beam me up Scotty

  • Sue

    There is nothing new under the sun. This just happens to be a modern way of wealthy women buying babies from poor ones.

  • dawn

    Feminist have always argued that women are not incubators and so therefore have a right to abortion. I don’t hear any of them now complaining when a women is quite literally being used as one. I guess carring a baby for the man you love is some how seedy but for money is altruistic.

  • Kathryn

    This kinda reminds me of what happened with Sarah, Abraham, and Hagar.

  • Kamilla

    This is all simply prostitution and sex-trafficking prettified for the beautiful people.

  • Beth

    Yes, I agree Kathryn. Hagar had Abraham’s baby because Sarah couldn’t and there is not much said about the morality of that when we hear the Abraham story in Church.

    I am in my 40’s and only recently realized the whole story of Abraham. The Old Testament has some explaining to do that is for sure. All these years I thought Abraham was a hero until I read all the dirty details of his sex life and sending Hagar off without adequate food/water because Sarah got jealous. Boy it ruined the whole thing for me.

  • Anna

    One sometimes sees in the footnotes in one’s Bible, “The inspired author is merely recording the event which does not imply God’s approval.” The Old Testament is largely a testament to why we need a savior. EVERY hero in the OT has some serious problems, and that’s after he is a follower of God. There is some speculation that God’s commandment to Abraham to be circumcised was meant as a rather painful reminder of his lack of marital fidelity (though that solution was common at the time) and his lack of trust in God’s promise to make his marriage fruitful. The Law was all very well (though Abraham didn’t even have that, really), but the redemption hadn’t happened yet so everyone, from Adam to Moses to David to Solomon, is shown for the wretches we all are without Jesus and His grace – even though all of them had a close relationship with God.
    The New Testament is exactly the reverse: awful people like Saul, who encounter Christ and become Paul, conformed to Christ through grace.

  • Charles

    If multiple tabloid reports are accurate, Nicole Kidman suffered both a miscarriage and ectopic (failed) pregnacy during her marriage to Tom Cruise. While one can understand–even admire–her desire for children (Kidman and Cruise adopted two), this latest adventure is cringe-worthy to say the least–and sad–but hardly unique. In a remarkable feature published in the Wall Street Journal (Dec. 11-12 Weekend Edition)http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703493504576007774155273928.html reporters document the growing global network of surrogate mothers as well as egg and sperm donors that is producing children “on the cheap and outside the reach of restrictive laws.” Virtually any reader would (or should) be appalled at what is happening with increasing frequency–under the glare of Hollywood lights or via the baby black market that exploits primarily the poor.

    Fortunately, Mother Church has the answer…or at least a key element of the medical/scientific answer: NaPro Technology (Natural Procreative Technology). Developed and refined at the Pope Paul VI Institute for the Study of Human Reproduction, NaPro helps identify the underlying causes of infertility (and other reproductive abnormalities) with uncanny accuracy, then applies medical and/or surgical protocols to help restore the woman’s body to normal, or near-normal functioning. It is at least as effective as in-vitro fertilization (IVF)and also is “green,” meaning it works naturally with the woman’s body in a way that is totally compatible with Catholic Church Teaching.

    Of course, even the best medicine and science cannot “cure” a culture that allows and encourages multiple partners, relationships and “marriages” of all shapes, sizes and varieties. But NaPro Technology is giant leap forward in bringing sanity back to the area of human reproduction that has strayed into dangerous waters where the child is most at-risk and victimized. All Catholics should become familiar with and encourage the use of NaPro Technology. http://www.naprotechnology.com http://www.fertilitycare.org

  • Aengus O’Shaughnessy

    Yep, that’s what I always thought—Abraham may have been a follower of God, but sure, and he still had some problems. Actually, it makes me feel better just reading about some of the stuff he did, because my own faults suddenly don’t seem that bad. . .