Resistance to Porn from an Unlikely Place

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You may be called to join the Fapstronauts. They are an online community gathered at a place called NoFap around a pledge of non-fapping. What’s fapping? I had never heard of it either. Fapping is masturbation.

Fapping has always been a problem for men but never more so since the explosion of pornography, and most especially Internet porn. It is probably at epidemic proportions right now.

WebMD says there are 420 million webpages of porn. One porn site I will not name, the second largest porn site on the web, receives 100 million pages views every single day with 4,000 videos watched every minute during its peak hours.

Internet porn plays almost perfectly upon something called the Coolidge Effect that describes how a male will enthusiastically have sex with a new partner but his ardor will cool over time only will be revved up by a new partner.

Internet porn is fast and free. You don’t need to buy a magazine or a video and you don’t have to go anywhere. With this endless supply of women, a guy can click through them like a cocaine rat. The Internet is the Coolidge Effect gone wild. They call it “super-stimulus” and that is the thing that also leads porn aficionados to seek grosser and grosser images. After all, a guy can grow bored with the plain vanilla gang-rape day in and day out.

Enter an increasingly large number of guys, and some women, who grew weary of the tedious fap-treadmill. In the summer of 2011 someone posted a note on the wildly popular Reddit website that said, “When men don’t masturbate for 7 days their testosterone levels increase by 45.7 percent” This little remark began a conversation and by the end of the day a movement was born. By the end of the month a guy named Alexander Rhodes founded NoFap.

NoFap has 70,000 members and hosts what it calls “challenges” to abstain from pornography and masturbation for a period of time. They say, “Join the movement. Gain control of your sexuality and turn it into superpowers. Quit porn and live a more awesome life.”

Who are these guys? Project Know, a program that helps addictions of all kinds, did a survey of the NoFap community last year and found a startling 31 percent are between the ages of 13-19, 75 percent are single, 90 percent are heterosexual, 16 percent started porn use before the age of 12, 53 percent started between 12 and 14, prior to NoFap 59 percent had used porn 4 and 15 hours per week, 64 percent noted their tastes in porn has grown more deviant over time, and nearly 50 percent had never had real sex.

Only 11 percent of the NoFap community is over 30 and the report claims that, “Internet porn addiction is largely a problem of youth.” Their numbers are obviously skewed since older men are not generally Reddit users. Any divorce lawyer or religious counselor can attest that porn addiction affects all age groups.

The study showed reasons why these young people are seeking help. Respondents reported negative psychological effects from masturbation including “depression and social anxiety.” They believe chronic masturbation sabotages “their chances of finding a partner” and “compromises the quality of sex in their current relationship” not to mention that it shows an “undesirable lack of self-control.”

They also reported that among 27-31 year old NoFappers that 19 percent suffered from premature ejaculation, 25 percent are not interested in sex with their partner, 31 percent have trouble reaching orgasm, 34 percent experience erectile dysfunction, and 37 percent have decreased sexual sensitivity.

NoFappers seek to break what they call the “PMO cycle” of pornography, masturbation, and orgasm. They do this through fellowship and, like guys everywhere, a bit of healthy competition. The idea is to go as along as you can without looking at porn and all that follows. The Forum at NoFap.org is where they come to talk and the talk is inspirational. Young men trapped in a terrible addiction crying out for help in a world not much interested in helping them.

Bamac16 says, “I’ve smoked weed since I was 14 and pretty much started watching porn around the same age, they went hand in hand. Get high, then spend the entire night watching porn. Sometimes I would go from 11pm to 3am! Insane, Now I’m 23 and while I’ve been making some progress over the year (I’ve definitely slowed down on both.) I know I need to quit them both altogether, I want to get back in the dating game. I haven’t had a relationship in 5 years….”

He was answered almost immediately by BJ02019 who offered Bamac16 aid and comfort telling him he found porn more addicting than pot and that he was on day 11 of his 90-day goal. Attached to his post is a counter that shows exactly where he is in his 90-day quest. Anyone on the forum can get such a counter.

BJ02019 says he felt actual physical withdrawals when he quit and that he was irritable because of it. And then he says this. “If you are very serious this is going to be a huge lifestyle change and maybe one of the hardest things in your life, mentally anyway. Idk this is my take on it all, hope this helps and GOOD LUCK! “

Here’s a guy only a few days into trying to kick the habit and he’s encouraging another NoFapper who hasn’t even begun yet. Instant understanding. Instant help.

And relief is there for them, if they can hold on. Fapstronauts report “a burst of energy about 1-2 weeks after beginning” abstinence. Though they experience something they call “flatlining” which is a reduced libido “occurring 2-6 weeks into abstinence,” 56 percent reported they “were more willing to talk to women,” and 60 percent said they “gained a better knowledge of their strengths and weaknesses.” And then there is the unimaginable relief from a great burden lifted.

Masturbation used to be shameful, so was pornography. Now they are jokes and everybody does them. Yet each are traps that have ensnared hundreds of millions of men and boys around the world, and a sizable portion of women, too.

It is a shameful testament to our societal institutions, even the Church, that pornography has run so rampant over our culture. Though porn was discussed at the just concluded bishops’ meeting, to date only two US bishops have issued letters warning about its dangers. And when was the last time that this issue was mentioned even tangentially in a sermon? And how much more effective would be there already successful mission if these young men were taught about their own human dignity? NoFap does not allow religious appeals on their site, which is too bad.

Even so they are doing amazing work and it is a moving testament to the human spirit that young men and women would band together to help themselves and help others overcome the scourge.

If you want to join a real resistance to the sexual revolution, go to www.nofap.org right way.

Austin Ruse

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Austin Ruse is president of C-FAM (Catholic Family & Human Rights Institute), a New York and Washington DC-based research institute focusing on international legal and social policy. The views expressed here are not necessarily those of C-FAM.

  • http://renewthechurch.wordpress.com/ Thomas Richard

    Thank you for the article, Mr. Ruse. It is troubling to read of the depths and expanse of the problem – pornography and masturbation. It is more troubling to be confronted once more with our cultural poverty – the wide-spread absence of the true goods that such demeaning counterfeits have replaced: real and good human relationships, true personal and fruitful love, a knowledge of one’s authentic human dignity and responsibility and potency.

    It is encouraging that men have come forward to try to help one another in this battle! It is shameful that the Church has offered so little so far in the conflict. I really wonder what some of the leaders in the Church see and hear and are aware of. “Rome is burning!” And many in the Church continue with programs, concerns and priorities that remind me of rearranging furniture on the Titanic.

    To whom much is given, much will be required.

    • givelifeachance2

      If seculars can speak up, then pastors can too. This site should stiffen the spines of priests to speak out on the truth the Church has taught in season and out, even when they mock and call you a fool.

      Part of the reticence may be the still-entrenchment of many homosexual priests. Not only does this tendency bode poorly for homilies, it makes a completely adequate explanation for the annulment crisis…after all, how can proper marriage prep take place by someone whose outlook on sexuality is so distorted. This is the answer to those who say non-practicing, but avowed, homosexuals ought to be able to be priests.

  • Steven Jonathan

    This is a bit of good news, thank you Mr.Ruse- I hope and pray that their efforts grow-but I fear this may be a sign of something worse, the further collective depravity of a world drowning in a tsunami of porn and a small contingent who has managed to find floating debris (a technique, technology, temporary incentives) and though this may work for some, I fear that it will be as temporary as the successes on the shows called “Intervention” because when the enthusiasm dies, and the fellowship wanes, we poor addicts are still left with our disorder at its roots- I have yet to learn that there is any other real cure other than our Lord, who heals all wounds and restores the sick to health. May God have mercy on us all.

    • Fravashi

      Yes, but there is help in SAA. There you will find a 12-step model that combines abstinence (one day at a time) with working with others and relying on a Higher Power (which many choose to call God). It really does work.

      I feel badly for these boys and young men who have no spiritual direction at this new site . . . because they may well abstain for 90 days, but then after that, what’s to keep them from going back to their addiction? This is the problem — sex has become an addiction instead of a sacred act reserved for the sacrament of marriage. You don’t even have to go that far to gain benefit from SAA, but you will work with a sponsor and take your addiction a day at a time, not 90 days at a time, under the care of a God *as you understand Him.*

      • You_Can_Do_lt

        There are a lot of users on NoFap that are quitting for religious leaders. There is an accountability partner thread available for folks to connect with someone that has similar values. I found two Christian guys that I email with at least once a day for help and encouragement. SA and SAA are great programs. I was involved in SA for a while until I couldn’t find the time to go to weekly meetings. NoFap gives me the same sense of community, with even better accountability, so I wouldn’t discount one as better than the other. If people are seeking help for their sins, atheist and theist alike, I wouldn’t cast stones.

        • You_Can_Do_lt

          Edit: quitting for religious *reasons*

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  • Sodcial Justice for all!

    This is quite obviously one of those ‘ideology driven’ campaigns against following a personal definition of what is good and moral that our new Pope is campaigning against. This ‘diversion’ takes significant no money or attention from the ‘poor and downtrodden’ victims of unrestrained capitalism. Therefore, it is a waste of energy to raise it as an issue. You would be better served by writing about the evils of profits, the need to support those who are unable to work because they can’t function before noon, the abuse of employees by businesses that don’t pay enough or provide cushy retirements for ALL employees, and those evil people who object to ‘social justice’!

    • Kevin McCormick

      Perhaps you need to consider whether your definition of the “poor and downtrodden” is limited exclusively to those suffering from physical deprivation. Ultimately Christ is concerned with our spiritual well-being, as we see in the healing of the ten lepers. Without a doubt we must help those suffering from physical poverty. But, as Mother Teresa said, spiritual poverty is a yet greater concern for the Christian in the west. Incidentally you might also check the catechism to be reminded of the Church’s definition of the evils of both masturbation and pornography. And the consequences of the explosion of pornography in the world has been powerfully destructive for those caught in its web, particularly for the involved in its production–most of whom are women.

    • JohnC

      Sodcial Justice for all!, it’s obvious that you don’t get it. This ‘diversion’ as you call it, is destroying families (the fundamental cell of society per Pope Francis), embracing a culture of death, and objectification of men and women–not to mention an inordinate amount of time, talent, and treasure being squandered instead of acting all for the glory of God.

      • Austin Ruse

        Hahahahahahahaha

    • Hugh_Oxford

      Ridiculous.

    • Adam__Baum

      How much profit do you get for your graffitti?

      I’m guess the “Sod” misspelling is a freudian slip, an indication of the dirt to come.

    • Guest

      I get your point. I really do. Over at the Catholic Thing there is an essay about gender confusion. Two of the comments to that piece take the author to task for writing about the topic instead of poverty. Now, that mind-set is the new thing. Apparently, only material poverty concern is the metric to judge your salvation by. I am not saying that is the Pope’s intention, but that message is being conveyed by the general public. It makes only one thing important and all else secondary or to be perceived as of much lesser value.

      • Adam__Baum

        One comment.

        We need to stop allowing people to use the insidious language manipulation of “gender”. Gender is a connstruction of language a construct, malleable, whereas sex is a a biological fact, immutable. That’s why “transsexual” became “transgender”.

        People have a sex, pronouns have a gender. All of the butchery and chemical manipulation in the world can’t change a man into a woman or a woman into a man. The result is a counterfeit, and based upon the prominent celebrity deformations, and fairly poor fake at that.

      • hombre111

        Reminds me of the inevitable squawk against sermons on Social Justice: “Why don’t you talk about the evil of abortion?” Why not talk about them both?

        • Art Deco

          1. Why not start with the days readings?

          2. There is very little anyone can do about ‘social justice’ in the course of their daily life, even when it can be satisfactorily defined. Not so sexual sins.

          3. We have reason to believe they squawk at your sermons because your treatment of the subject is bad.

          • john smith

            Abortion is a social justice issue, and it is less of a thing that one can do anything about in their “daily lives” than poverty, education, law enforcement, witness etc.

            I apologize if the following sounds bold or even offensive, but if one doesn’t have at least the OPPORTUNITY to do one kind thing for someone less fortunate than oneself each day, then I don’t see how one can call oneself a Christian. Buy a meal, give a ride, or maybe just listen to someone rant and rave or whine and complain, without judging or offering unsolicited advice.

            Many of us don’t actually succeed in carrying out daily works of mercy or charity, but the opportunity is always there.

            ETA: I am 100% pro-life and a human abortion abolitionist.

            • Adam__Baum

              Buy a meal, give a ride, or maybe just listen to someone rant and rave
              or whine and complain, without judging or offering unsolicited advice.

              How about not racing out of Mass early and shutting off the Iphone with the “Girls, Girls, Girls” ringtone during Mass.

              • john smith

                I sure hope that Our Lord likes my list better than yours when He applies His criteria toward His judgment of me.

                I attended Mass faithfully every week with my wife and kids for years. We volunteered. We had our children baptized,

                I donated cash anonymously and cringed when the parish sent us an auto-generated receipt so we could get our tax write-off or deduction or whatever for the few checks I had written when I had no cash on me.

                I joined the Knights of Columbus and was the youngest member in our parish by about twenty years.

                Then I went to jail for a few weeks and not a single person from my parish came to visit me. Not one. So I haven’t been to Mass in a few years.

                So I hope Jesus is more concerned about daily works of mercy and charity than by how long we spend in Mass each week. My scorecard isn’t great on either, but I try harder at the former now.

          • hombre111

            You can do something about social justice by your attitude, by being familiar with what the Catechism says about the subject, by the issues you pay attention to in the newspaper, and by the way you vote. Also, read john smith below.

        • Adam__Baum

          “Social justice” is paying some non-Catholic “community organizer” with no interest in the Church other than to suckle at its ample charitable bosom, of course displacing one of her hungry legitimate children to attend “training” based on the writings of a man who dedicated his magnum opus to the prince of darkness, and then seeing him use this “experience” as a springboard to politics, so he can ascend to highest office in the land, but always along the way, pushing for more abortion.

          • hombre111

            Social Justice is following the teaching of the Church, basically, the teaching of one pope after another, beginning with Leo XIII, and including the very interesting writing of Pope Francis. Glad to see you in the cafeteria, picking and choosing about what you believe and do when it comes to the Catholic faith.

            • Art Deco

              The social encyclicals all present the same feature: they rule out certain ways of conceiving of and organizing the social economy, but they do not offer much that is prescriptive that can also be readily operationalized (or operationalized at all); see Rerum Novarum paragraphs 45 through 47.

              That aside, peace-and-justice Catholics cannot contemplate the program of starboard politicians without caricaturing it. In the American context, they treat Ronald Reagan’s rhetorical flourishes as if they were policy blueprints This is stupid but provides useful excuses for the world’s poseurs.

              • hombre111

                Ronald Reagan’s “rhetorical flourishes” spelled the beginning of the end for the American working man. Wages have been flat or falling ever since. More and more people fall into poverty. Go past Rerum Novarum, and read popes who support labor unions, a living wage, and government programs for the poor.

                • Art Deco

                  Hombre111, about 70% of the working population are wage earners. Seems the working man is still here.

                  The population meeting the statutory definition of ‘poverty’ has fluctuated around a set point since 1968, in large measure because it consists of people alienated from the labor market for one reason for another. One might also note that personal disposable income per capita has nearly quadrupled since 1948. The poverty threshhold in our own time is quite near the mean of 1948. At one time (and I believe still) the share of the population living in poverty was calculated taking into account only cash income and not in kind benefits from the state.

                  Ronald Reagan’s rhetorical flourishes do not manufacture long term trends in the distribution of rewards between various factors of production or between different strata of the working population. Inequalitarian trends in income distribution have their point of origin around about 1969, a dozen years before Reagan took office.

                  The share of personal income accounted for by employee compensation is currently just north of 62% – note the effects of the recession and our wretched labor market. It fluctuated between 65% and 69% over the period running from 1981 to 2008 and fluctuated between 70% and 73% during the period running from 1950 to 1980. It bounced around between 65% and 74% during the period running from 1938 to 1949 (the peaks were during the War). It was between 60% and 65% during the period running from 1929 to 1937, when proprietorship (especially farm proprietorship) was more prevalent than it is today. The share of returns to labor accounted for by supplements (insurance and pension contributions) as opposed to cash stood at 2% in 1929, 7% in 1950, 16% in 1980, and 20% today.

                  Using a different methodology, the Bureau of Labor Statistics has calculated compensation costs to employers, which track wage rates. Compensation per civilian worker in this enumeration has increased (in real terms) by about 20% since 1982. The data series for executive and professional employees has tracked the mean since it was initiated in 1989. The increase in compensation for service and clerical workers has tracked the mean since 1982. That for blue collar workers has been lower, increasing by about 12% since 1982.

                  There have been inequalitarian trends in income distribution in a context of overall increases in incomes. Personal income per capita (per the Commerce Department, using a different methodology) has increased in real terms by 71% since 1980. The share distributed to the lowest quintile has fallen by about a quarter and that to the most affluent has increased by about 15%. Overall, personal income per capita has increased by 30% for the least affluent and by about 98% for the most affluent.

                  Here’s your problem, with regard to this issue and most others (it seems). You can manage literary caricatures, but you cannot manage precise and quantitatively grounded descriptions. Until you can, you would be well advised to avoid the topic of ‘social justice’.

                  • hombre111

                    Yak, yak. Read in NYT a few months ago that the average blue collar worker who started work under Reagan and is now ready to retire is a grand 39.00 ahead. Wages went flat and have stayed flat since 1979, when business got the upper hand over unions and the Walmart model took over. The NYT also pointed out that most of the money from the “recovery” since 2008 has gone to the one percent.

                    • Art Deco

                      I am not yakking. I am quoting you precise statistics from the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the Bureau of Economic Analysis, and the Bureau of the Census. It’s not my problem you cannot process them and refer instead to an irrelevant article in the New York Times which fits your prejudices.. It should not be your parishioners’ problem either.

                    • Adam__Baum

                      Hey, econmoron. I lived through the 1970′s, so if you want to go back a couple decades, try the Carter administration. I remember my Dad’s paycheck falling further and further behind. Of course before him there was Gerald Ford’s “Win”

                      Expand your reading beyond the old grey lady. It is a pretentious joke, devoid of any objectivity, outside a few token articles.

                • Austin Ruse

                  The economy began its long time swoon not because of Reagan but because of the collapse of the family that really got rolling in the 1970s. Poverty skyrockets when women leave their husbands or husbands leave their wives. This is what happened.

                  • Adam__Baum

                    Yep.

                    http://cafehayek.com/2012/07/the-importance-of-changing-family-structure.html

                    Now, let’s examine the credibility of the accuser here. Hombre has demonstrated in post after post, thoughts on economic matters that are quite frankly, cartoonish.

                  • hombre111

                    I certainly couldn’t disagree with you on the collapse of the family. But it was at that time that business finally figured out how to break the unions and Reagan really helped. With stagnant or lower wages, families are in trouble. In order to keep their lifestyles, women went to work. I remember when only the salary of the husband was taken into consideration when purchasing a house. A law was passed which allowed them to consider the wages of the wife. (My brother-in-law, a builder, just reminded me of this). Within a few years, the prices of homes had doubled.

                    Also, note recent studies, one by a famous conservative, which note that middle class families remain more or less intact. It is among the struggling and the poor that the family structure has collapsed. This economic fact has to play some part in the picture.

                    • Austin Ruse

                      According to social science (see Brad Wilcox, UVA) three things that virtually guarantee you won’t end in poverty is 1) finishing high school, 2) getting married and 3) attending church. Joining a union is not among them. When a family is destroyed, poverty almost inevitably follows.

                    • hombre111

                      Guarantee? Oh, please. You are smarter than that. Take a look at the current situation, not some text book. I couldn’t argue about high school, marriage, or church. But, especially in the current times, those three things can mean very little when your company fires half its workers, cuts your wages, and forces you to work 6 days a week.
                      According to history, unions played a major role in the prosperity that blessed America from 1945-1970. When my state passed its right to work laws, breaking the unions, wages dropped and then went flat. Average wages are less than 30,000 a year. Carpenters are earning what they earned thirty years ago. One out of four children live in poverty.

            • Adam__Baum

              Show me an encyclical that says pay for anybody to attend Alinsky training. You are in no position to accuse anybody of cafeteria Catholicism, you dour old troll.

              • hombre111

                Set up a straw man. Modern Darwinian, trickle-down capitalism fails the smell test.

                • Art Deco

                  1. “Trickle down capitalism” is a polemical term. It it rhetoric, not a proper descriptor.

                  2. What smell test? How does a metaphor of putrefaction have any explanatory value?

                  • Adam__Baum

                    When I read H111′s stuff I get the trinity of intellectual rot. Putrecine, Cadaverine and Scatol.

    • http://romishgraffiti.wordpress.com/ Scott W.

      Porn isn’t a cottage industry. it’s a perfect example of capitalism (a liberal and Protestant invention by the way) run amok: it’s exploitation of the weak promising satisfaction but delivering despair. Porn and masturbation is an expression of selfishness. Conquering this would go a long way toward calling men and women to lives of unselfish giving in other areas.

    • entonces_99

      Is this meant as a parody of the anti-anti-fap viewpoint?

  • AcceptingReality

    The abiding secular wisdom, that masturbation is a normal and healthy way to “entertain” oneself doesn’t help. I wonder, to what degree, this explosion of indulgence in such sin can be traced to the absence of topics relating to sin and morality coming from our pulpits.

    • hombre111

      Unless he is one of the young militants, no priest is going to talk about this topic from the pulpit. It is a matter of what you say and what people hear, which are often not the same. My reading in modern Catholic moral theology treats this gently for teenagers, because condemning them to hell might not be the most adequate way to approach this topic. For example, a Mormon boy just jumped off a bridge into a deep canyon. His issue: masturbation. And as for older people? It’s time to talk about sexual addiction, and acknowledge the tremendous struggle.

      • Adam__Baum

        “seek council in a site like SAA (sex addicts anonymous), which offer
        some excellent resources to people locked in this struggle.”

        Translation

        “I don’t really think this a big deal, so I’ll send you to secular counselors.”

        • hombre111

          You clearly don’t know much about the twelve step programs such as AA and SAA, which are based on a trust and belief in God and include a profound spirituality? Did you go onto the SAA site to see what it says, before you started your usual yack?

          • Adam__Baum

            Nice try poseur, but I wasn’t questioning their efficacy, just your dedication to pastoral counseling.

        • Art Deco

          It’s Hombre111 you are talking about. The secular counselors might just be better for the subject’s spiritual health. Recall what Bp. Sheen said about Catholic colleges.

          • Robert

            What did Bishop Sheen say about Catholic colleges? Did he disapprove of them? I thought he gave lectures at some of them?

            • Art Deco

              He said, around about 1970, that he would rather a youth in his care attend a state university than lose his faith at a Catholic college. It was a remark on the rapid decay of those institutions at that time.

  • HV Observer

    “… And when was the last time that this issue was mentioned even tangentially in a sermon?”

    Because priests have a ready-made excuse: “It has nothing to do with the Scripture readings this Sunday.”

    Until we get orders from Ordinaries that their priests should preach against pornography, no matter what the readings of the day are, this will continue happen. The same can be said for any number of important moral issues.

    • Adam__Baum

      To be fair, it’s a difficult topic to discuss with children present.

      • likeasaint

        Agree, but children are now watching it too through multiple social media sites.

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  • Hugh_Oxford

    I wonder if men with no exposure to Christianity will find their way home through their struggle with pornography. Has the Devil been too obvious here?

  • http://www.renegaderadio.org/ William E Bauer

    As the program director of a Christian youth-oriented radio station, we have been airing anti-porn messages for some time. Our latest series of 60 second spots is done by the man who has been the “voice” for Nordstrom and is quality stuff. We will make these messages available free-of-charge to any radio station that asks.
    email me at “email(at)renegaderadio(dot)org

  • Tony

    Every man knows that what these lonely fighters say is true. I’ve been suspecting lately that the reason why there’s so little dating (almost none, actually) in my college, anyway, and perhaps others, is not that everybody is “hooking up,” but that the guys are watching porn as the “safe” way to alleviate their loneliness. Guys, that is what kissing used to be for.

    • Adam__Baum

      I somehow think it alleviates loneliness the same way starting the car and racing the engine in the driveway relieves the desire to go for a drive.

  • hombre111

    Interesting. I was planning on talking about internet porn as part of a sermon on Advent repentance, and will use your statistics. As you said, it is a hard topic to speak about publicly, but there it sits, the elephant in front of the doorway.

    • Deacon Ed Peitler

      That is great. And when the Church reaches out to those who struggle with pornography and masturbation, she conveys Christ’s offer of mercy and hope. And what better way to evangelize the culture, evangelize young people, than to reach out to them where they are struggling the most.

  • Art Deco

    They also reported that among 27-31 year old NoFappers that 19 percent
    suffered from premature ejaculation, 25 percent are not interested in
    sex with their partner, 31 percent have trouble reaching orgasm, 34
    percent experience erectile dysfunction, and 37 percent have decreased
    sexual sensitivity.

    And 100% shaved 15 years off their age when they answered the survey.

  • Vinnie

    It helps to know that masturbation is the same as fornication and sodomy. It’s a narcissistic focus on me, myself and I. Focus on others.
    No person is an object even if you look at them that way. Everyone has great intrinsic value solely by being made in the image and likeness of God. Regardless of what sinful decisions they make.

  • Deacon Ed Peitler

    Austin,
    #1 Since NoFap does not allow religious appeals on their site and the site seems to have gained much popularity, perhaps someone who frequents Crisis who has web development skills can construct a similar effort for Catholics. Perhaps, there is a courageous bishop or two who might write an endorsement for such a website.
    #2 This is one of those articles that should be re-printed by pastors to be included in their parish weekend bulletins. Why? Because the bishops thought it important enough to take the issue up for discussion at their annual meeting and secondly, because you will NEVER hear this information even remotely alluded to in a Catholic homily.

  • WalterPaulKomarnicki

    funny you should mention that: I have never heard a homily that mentioned pornography – or, for that matter, gambling.

    • Deacon Ed Peitler

      Both of which are significant problems. We never hear anything from our bishops about the morality of State-sponsored gambling. The problem with it is that most who gamble in State-sponsored lotteries are in no financial position to do so. Our Founding Fathers would be aghast to learn that government was in the gaming business – but then again our government is in the abortion, contraception, same-sex marriage, war, healthcare and soon-be-be euthanasia businesses so why would it surprise us? What a country!

      • Adam__Baum

        But state sponsored gambling does so much good, Deacon and if we have billions to spend on “programs” for the elderly, or education, then we just wink and nod. Once again the idolatry of money of the left!

      • Art Deco

        Deacon, if your parish is raising funds through raffles and bingo you may want to qualify those remarks.

        • Adam__Baum

          Key words: “state sponsored”.

        • Deacon Ed Peitler

          I was talking about State-sponsored gambling. It is not the role of the State to run gaming operations – ostensibly to help the poor who are the ones who most frequent lotteries and are most ill-suited to spend their limited (often government-subsidized) income on games of chance.
          As for the Church, it is unseemly for it too to run games of chance. I cannot imagine Christ operating a roulette table.

    • likeasaint

      Soon and very soon we will see something from the USCCB, which may spark more homilies.

  • CadaveraVeroInnumero

    “To be fair, it’s a difficult topic to discuss with children present”.

    No it’s not. Just announce in advance that “m” and “p” will be the topic of next week’s homily. It may start a conversation going within each household. First, if the Catholic father of the household is himself addicted? And for those households without fathers (or spiritually absent ones) a reassurance by the Church (to those who care about boys and young men) that this truly is a crippling bit of nastiness in the lives of many Catholics.

    Though our society is all for this filth, it is still managed as a “secret” sin within Christian households (or parish rectories!). How many earnest, sincere, dedicated young Catholic men man pro-life vigils knowing the night before they had watch a couple of hours of porn and did the deed. More than we are willing to admit.

    Millions upon millions of boys and young men, at this very hour, are watching this stuff. The solution is not laws but honest preaching. Too bad this is not a story of 1493 Florence and a Dominican Friar.

    • likeasaint

      Agree, but also:

      “Civil authorities should prevent the production and distribution of pornographic materials.” – Catechism of the Catholic Church, par 2354

      Right now, we’re almost doing nothing on all fronts.

  • Paul Tran

    We could all do with a definitive cause as to why pornography is so addictive at this point ? We all know pornography is degrading and demeaning to all participants, but for the addicts there is a sense of curiosity, voyeurism, fantasy, desire and perhaps self identification ? If these reasons could be tackled at their roots then maybe this would bring forth a loss of interest in pornography and the downfall of this dreadful industry would then ensue ? Just think aloud …

  • Olivia

    The abject shame attached to this antisocial addiction, festering in young adults and even children, truly deeply lonely shame. Being a drunk or a stoner is one thing but add this on top and you have a recipe for suicide. Which is at epic proportions. Common core suggests pornographic books for young people depicting graphic pedofilia rape incest and more.
    http://whatiscommoncore.wordpress.com/2013/08/26/a-sickening-turn-of-events-common-core-approved-pornography-may-or-may-not-be-on-this-years-standardized-test/

    Teachers have children writing suicide notes in class.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/12/york-prep-suicide-notes-assignment_n_3429956.html

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/france/9737525/French-teacher-suspended-for-asking-pupils-to-write-suicide-notes.html
    http://blogs.edweek.org/edweek/rulesforengagement/2013/05/teachers_endorse_social_emotional_lessons_but_subject_lacks_priority.html

    http://edsource.org/today/2013/social-and-emotional-learning-gaining-new-traction-under-common-core/32161#.UqT9sH-9KSN

    Children are subjected to social and emotional learning surveys and discussions that manipulate their minds, break them down just like an EST training or like a cult.

    http://www.edweek.org/tm/articles/2013/10/14/cm_socialemotional.html?tkn=MXCCeAZMEdlKS6ceOyHT2lD/ccAH3LXGsqVm

    Guerrilla cultural terrorism

  • Vinnie

    “The Catholic Church has long taught that marriage between a man and a woman is the only place for sex; a place wherein sex can be free, faithful, fruitful and reflective of the love of God. In any other setting, the “self-gift” which Blessed John Paul II espoused in his Theology of the Body becomes muted or destroyed, only to be replaced by the fleeting pleasures of sexual satisfaction, possession, eroticism, and a selfishness that places our own urges over the need to give to others.” See Crisis Magazine Dec. 13, 2013 “Sex Trafficking In Your Backyard”

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